Do you have a designated time out area in your house and what’s your time out routine?
Working in a nursery made time out or reflection time seem like it would be a breeze when I had children. I’d read what all the theorists had said about the pros and cons and effective methods. I knew exactly what to do in every circumstance. The child would first be distracted and moved away from the situation whilst doing so talking to them about the unwanted behaviour and what we could do to ressolve it. If it continued they would be moved to a chair which had a box of calming sticks next to it for them to look at. They would be given a minute for each year of life and asked to think about their unwanted behaviour. Once the timer was finished I would go over discuss why they were on there and talk about what they need to do next. This worked so well….. Then along came Orlando 😂🙈
At home, time out is usually spent sat on the stairs, if behaviour has been really bad and continues to be even on the naughty step, the door is shut (yes I know I shouldn’t as it’s a big no no from all my years of experiences a childcare practitioner but the word naughty is reguarly used in my home 🙈).
Time out was even in this basket once 😂 not my choice, Orlando thought it would be a good choice to have it there and then got stuck, I was in no rush to help 🙈
Voices are raised and emotions are high. It’s so hard to separate yourself from it when it’s your own child. I know what I should do but it very rarely happens. There is no timer really, well apart from the occasional help from Alexia 😂 Time can vary depending on the behaviour, a bit like a prison sentence. But one thing I do make sure to do is once time is up we talk about what he had done, he says sorry and we have a hug and kiss and I tell him I love him.